Ferdinand says the rift began when Lampard chose to move to Chelsea.
He said: “We had a generation that were nicknamed the golden generation of players where expectations were huge for us as a national team to go out and win something.
“And that there is what held us back. Not being able to separate club ties to international football.
“I wrote a chapter in my book about Frank Lampard. We grew up together at West Ham, then we went our separate ways.
“I went to Man Utd and he went to Chelsea. We did everything together from 16 to 21, we roomed together, travelled together, did everything together.
“When I went to Man Utd and he went to Chelsea, we stopped talking. We never spoke about it, we just stopped talking.”